Leaving the Ashram for Sex Experience

If one is in the Ashram from childhood, does one get over the sex difficulty without bothering about it?

The staying in the Ashram is not enough.

This period seems to be a difficult one. Some Ashramites who were here for long are going out with the Mother’s permission for experiment. It is said they found it too difficult to manage here with their ego and sex. I doubt if they will succeed with the experiment.

It is well understood that the permission given does not exclude the possibility of the experiment ending badly. But the experiment becomes necessary if the pull of the ego or the outer being and that of the soul have become too acute for solution otherwise or if the outer being insists on having its experience.

After our staying for so many years in the Ashram, how are these old difficulties surging up so powerfully?

With many sex, demands etc. after a long discontinuance come up with a rush and they find it too difficult to overcome.

Even some good people cherish their bad habits in the hope that when the transformation is done they will drop off themselves.

That is the mistake of many in the Ashram.

And others say: “Why bother with them at all? They do not come in the way of the sadhana.”

Some even say: “What is the need of suppressing these things? I get experiences without suppressing them. They are a part of life.”

Once a strong sexual push comes up, is it really better for one to go out and make an experiment?

It is especially when the outer being rejects the Truth and insists on having its own life and refuses the rule of the spiritual life that the experiment becomes inevitable. I have never said that it is recommendable.

Does that push really become so violent that in spite of knowing its nature and the result of its satisfaction one cannot control it remaining in the Ashram?

In some it is too strong, they have to go and see for themselves. That does not mean that everyone has to go whenever he feels a difficulty. These are exceptional cases.

But supposing a man’s sex-pull becomes so strong that he indulges it in the Ashram; will he not have to go back to the worldly life and take it out there?

Will all be well returning to the Ashram after pacifying the push? Do such desires, once satisfied willingly, leave him at peace for the rest of his life?

If the external being is too strong for him and its desires increased, then it means his realisation is postponed. But then there is no other choice. For the only other alternative is a life in the Ashram itself which would be soon a public scandal.

What brings about such hopelessness after one has already entered the spiritual path?

There is no hopelessness except where the will chooses the worse path.