Sri Aurobindo

Letters of Sri Aurobindo

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Sri Aurobindo — Sahana Devi

September 4, 1937

It was from what N said that the Mother had the• impression. She wished you to know that Y was not easy to deal with before she put her there and whether you have any objection; at the same time Y was told that, if she went to that house, she should so behave as not to disturb your sleep, should not object to your singing etc .etc. Y was told and Mother understood from what N said that you also had been told and that you knew Y and her nature and were confident of being able to manage with her. It appears from what you wrote that this must have been N’s own impression, but it was so said that it seemed to be the gist of his conversation with you. So Mother thought it would be all right and as you had managed with Mridu, so you would manage with Y.

It is not possible for the Mother to intervene personally in these matters. Formerly she used to try to intervene and arrange matters, but the only result was she got reproaches and abuse from both sides and accusations of partiality and injustice and the quarrels increased tenfold. For a long time that has been given up. If we begin again intervening in clashes between housemates or coworkers, all the time would have to be passed in that and the Ashram would become a seething cauldron of feuds and collisions. These things can only disappear if the sadhaks become fully sadhaks in their consciousness and temperament, learn how to keep equality in all circumstances and consider each other. Only a long silent spiritual pressure can help towards that – nothing else is of any use.