Sri Aurobindo

Letters of Sri Aurobindo

08. Human Relationships in Yoga

Fragment ID: 1594

I have read your letter and I understand now what it is that you find trying – but they do not seem to us such serious things as to be rightly felt as a cause of disturbance. They are the kind of inconveniences that one always has when people live and work together. It arises from a misunderstanding between two minds or two wills, each pulling his own way and feeling hurt or vexed if the other does not follow. This can only be cured by a change of consciousness – for when one goes into a deeper consciousness, first, one sees the cause of these things and is not troubled,– one acquires an understanding, patience and tolerance that makes one free from vexation and other reactions. If both or all grow in consciousness, then there arises a mental understanding of each other’s viewpoints which makes it easier to bring in harmony and smooth working. It is this that should be sought by the change within – to create the same harmony from outside by exterior means is not so easy, as the human mind is stiff in its perceptions and the human vital insistent on its own way of action. Let this be your main will – to grow yourself within and let the clearer and deeper consciousness come and have a good will for the same change to come in others so that charity and harmony may come in the place of friction and misunderstanding.